Letters to Little One

Love & Where to Find it

Dear Little One,

I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately. There are so many kinds.

Love for the senses: things you love to taste or smell or hear or feel or see.

Love for the brain: things you love to learn about, explore, understand, and invent.

Love for the body: things you do to feel calm or alive or dangerous or happy.

Love for the earth: things that you love to be around, be it outside or inside, underwater or in the air.

Love for the heart: things you will live and breathe and sacrifice and die for.

There’s love between friends and girlfriends and boyfriends and husbands and wives and daughters and fathers and sons and mothers and daughters. There’s self-based love and faith based love. There is tangible love and intangible love.

What’s comforting about all this is that, quite simply, there is love. And no matter where you are in your life, you will have it. It will be around you, it will be inside you, it will be you, even when that seems impossible to believe. So don’t lose hope, Little One, love is always there.

 

See you soon

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The Prickling Desires

Dear Little One,

Throughout your life, there will be desires that prickle beneath your skin. They may be for tangible things like money or belongings, or for intangible things like love, acceptance or success. And recently I’ve come to learn that in order to have any of these things, you must first accept the possibility of not having them. You must accept the possibility that you will not be given these things by chance. You must accept that sometimes you will fail, sometimes you won’t belong, sometimes you will be poor and sometimes you will have your heartbroken. But no matter how many of these mishaps seem to add up, don’t lose faith, because each one brings you closer to where you’re supposed to be. Each one opens you up and teaches you a lesson and makes you stronger. Each one makes that prickling desire more possible. So keep moving forward.

If you promise to, I’ll do the same.

 

See you soon.

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Breathe in the Now

Dear Little One,

Sometimes I struggle with anxiety. And when it hits, there are times I understand why and times I haven’t the slightest idea. I’m working on it, but sometimes it still feels bigger than me.

I’m not sure if this is something you’ll struggle with. I hope not. Though I feel as though we all do in some from, be it with anxiety or healthy doses of nerves and worry. Regardless of where you stand, I hope you know you can talk to me, and that you’re going to be okay.

Right now, I’m reading this book called OCD, the Dude & Me and in it the main character has OCD which is heightened when she gets overwhelmed. And while she can do little in the way of stopping her brain from initially becoming overwhelmed, she describes a technique on how to cope from there. She says that sometimes we’ll worry about the future and sometimes we’ll worry about the past, and in that worry we’ll send ourselves to those places, thus disconnecting ourselves from the present and making it much harder to calm down. To counteract this, she says her therapist tells her to breathe. Breathe and put your hand over your heart so you can feel it beating. Because that breath and those steady beats, those are now. They are your proof that you are here, now. You are no longer in the past and not yet in the future, so stop worrying about then and there. Take comfort in what you have now and move forward.

Keep breathing, Little One, and I’ll do the same.

See you soon.

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The Knowing & the Doing

Dear Little One,

As I’ve grown up, I’ve found it continually harder to be anything except myself. The hard part now is letting go of the fear behind letting that person be seen and heard. But, as I learned in the pursuit of the first, I know the key to the second is to keep trying, to give it time, and to tell the truth.

Though somehow I have a feeling that the knowing won’t make the doing any easier.

I’ll let you know how it goes.

 

See you soon.

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Always, Always, Always, Capable

Dear Little One,

Always always always remember you are capable. You are capable of doing everything and you are capable of doing nothing. You are capable of saying yes and saying no. You are capable of thinking and dreaming and producing and achieving. You are capable of failing and you are capable of trying again. You are capable of standing up and you are capable of surrendering. You are capable of loving and hating and choosing which one to turn to. You are capable of smiling and frowning and crying and laughing. You are capable of helping and turning your back and apologizing. You are capable of anything you set your mind to, and an infinite amount more outside of what you can imagine. You are capable of all this at once and yet sometimes you’ll still feel small, and that’s okay.

 

See you soon.

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Help the Sinking, Stay Afloat

Dear Little One,

In training to be a lifeguard, you learn how to control a chaotic, often life-threatening situation. When people are drowning or in fear of drowning, they are desperate for help, and it is your job to get to them, relax them and bring them to safety.

In learning to be a good friend, we are often faced with many of the same situations as a lifeguard, though they often exist on much more figurative planes. Life consistently throws the unexpected at us, knocking us down, pushing us under the water, and while we often try to teach ourselves to swim the best we can, we often rely on our friends to save us when things get too hard.

As a friend, we learn to hold our breath, we learn to paddle and to kick. We learn to stay calm when the person we are trying to save is too panicked to realize they may be drowning us too. Yes, as a friend we do all of these things, because oftentimes we are the only ones who will. However, we must always connect to the fact that we are not just a friend. We are not solely a lifeguard on duty during someone else’s swim. We too are swimming and we too are trying our best to stay afloat. So while we must always keep ourselves open and available to lend a hand when we are needed, we must also take note of where we are in the water.

So, Little One, I ask you to remember this: Love hard enough to want to save the ones around you from sinking, but make sure they put in as much time to help you float.

 

See you soon.

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