Letters to Little One

Look, Find, Create, Repeat

Dear Little One,

I’m a big list maker. I’m always writing down things I hope to do or see or learn and I’m always on the lookout for challenges. Reading challenges, film challenges, fitness challenges, cooking challenges, you name it.

Every time I look, there’s something new to find. Something new to read or eat or learn or explore. And that will never change. Because just as I’m constantly looking, people are constantly creating. And as I look and learn and then create, I give other people something to find.

We are all part of this crazy, fun circle, and we do both ourselves and each other a favor by constantly pursuing the unknown, even if it’s just a book or a burger.

So never stop looking, never stop exploring. There’s always something new to learn. Both about the world and yourself, and more often than not, you’ll fall in love with what you find. And even when you don’t, you’ll still find your feet have moved forward, which is really all that matters.

See you soon.

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The Awkward & the Uncomfortable

Dear Little One,

Throughout your life you will constantly come into contact with the awkward. The uncomfortable.

Sometimes it might even feel like you do nothing but run into the awkward and the uncomfortable.

But sometimes the awkward is a good awkward. The uncomfortable a good uncomfortable.

It makes you relieved to leave it and anxious to get back to it.

When you find that, dig your heels in and be brave. Because there’s something on the other side of that uncomfortable, and it’s about to change your life.

 

See you soon.

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Crossroads & Opportunites

Dear Little One,

In life, there are going to be a lot of crossroads, and the direction you choose will help shape you. There will also be handfuls of opportunities, and your decision whether to pursue them or not will help shape you. But perhaps the greatest and most defining moments of your life will be those when there is just you and the person you are becoming, building new roads and creating your own opportunities. These moments are not easy. They are trying and, at times, deafeningly quiet. But they are the ones you remember. The ones that not only shape you but fill you with colors you never knew you had. So keep walking, keep building, and never stop pursuing the corner of the circle.

See you soon.

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A Theory on Negativity

Dear Little One,

At times, it seems, negativity is unescapable. It sneaks into your mind and brings you down, sometimes for a few moments, sometimes for longer. Sometimes it’s the product of another person. Sometimes being around someone who is constantly negative will in turn start to make you feel negative. The hard part is, oftentimes when you try to combat that negativity, you pass it on to someone else. It’s not intentional, not in the slightest, but in expressing that negativity, you are setting it free to room elsewhere.

That’s not to say you should hold it in. Share your feelings. Release the negative thoughts that are holding their positive counterparts captive. But take care in how you do so. A cleanse doesn’t always have to come in the form of a complaint. It doesn’t have to be a rant. It doesn’t have to be a shout. Sometimes it can be a drawing or a story or a jog around the block; sometimes it can be a long bath or a nap or an old movie that makes you feel good; sometimes it can be a letter.

Whatever makes you take that deep breath.

Keep taking that deep breath.

See you soon.

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Love & Where to Find it

Dear Little One,

I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately. There are so many kinds.

Love for the senses: things you love to taste or smell or hear or feel or see.

Love for the brain: things you love to learn about, explore, understand, and invent.

Love for the body: things you do to feel calm or alive or dangerous or happy.

Love for the earth: things that you love to be around, be it outside or inside, underwater or in the air.

Love for the heart: things you will live and breathe and sacrifice and die for.

There’s love between friends and girlfriends and boyfriends and husbands and wives and daughters and fathers and sons and mothers and daughters. There’s self-based love and faith based love. There is tangible love and intangible love.

What’s comforting about all this is that, quite simply, there is love. And no matter where you are in your life, you will have it. It will be around you, it will be inside you, it will be you, even when that seems impossible to believe. So don’t lose hope, Little One, love is always there.

 

See you soon

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The Prickling Desires

Dear Little One,

Throughout your life, there will be desires that prickle beneath your skin. They may be for tangible things like money or belongings, or for intangible things like love, acceptance or success. And recently I’ve come to learn that in order to have any of these things, you must first accept the possibility of not having them. You must accept the possibility that you will not be given these things by chance. You must accept that sometimes you will fail, sometimes you won’t belong, sometimes you will be poor and sometimes you will have your heartbroken. But no matter how many of these mishaps seem to add up, don’t lose faith, because each one brings you closer to where you’re supposed to be. Each one opens you up and teaches you a lesson and makes you stronger. Each one makes that prickling desire more possible. So keep moving forward.

If you promise to, I’ll do the same.

 

See you soon.

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Breathe in the Now

Dear Little One,

Sometimes I struggle with anxiety. And when it hits, there are times I understand why and times I haven’t the slightest idea. I’m working on it, but sometimes it still feels bigger than me.

I’m not sure if this is something you’ll struggle with. I hope not. Though I feel as though we all do in some from, be it with anxiety or healthy doses of nerves and worry. Regardless of where you stand, I hope you know you can talk to me, and that you’re going to be okay.

Right now, I’m reading this book called OCD, the Dude & Me and in it the main character has OCD which is heightened when she gets overwhelmed. And while she can do little in the way of stopping her brain from initially becoming overwhelmed, she describes a technique on how to cope from there. She says that sometimes we’ll worry about the future and sometimes we’ll worry about the past, and in that worry we’ll send ourselves to those places, thus disconnecting ourselves from the present and making it much harder to calm down. To counteract this, she says her therapist tells her to breathe. Breathe and put your hand over your heart so you can feel it beating. Because that breath and those steady beats, those are now. They are your proof that you are here, now. You are no longer in the past and not yet in the future, so stop worrying about then and there. Take comfort in what you have now and move forward.

Keep breathing, Little One, and I’ll do the same.

See you soon.

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