Dear Little One,
If someone were to ask you who you are, what would you say?
Woah. I know, kind of a broad, crazy, way too deep to be casual, type of question.
My guess would be that your mind would react one of two ways.
1) It would list everything about yourself that you hate/think you suck at/wish were different
2) It would argue things that are pretty okay/not terrible/things that should gain you brownie points somewhere.
Funny thing is, this list would be different for everyone. And that’s not based solely on alternating lifestyles, but also the unique rankings each of our minds give to specific traits and accomplishments. We all have things that we like/dislike and things that we believe make you a successful/unsuccessful person and it’s okay for those things to vary among individuals.
That being said, a lot of modern day success seems to revolve around popularity. With the rise of social media, many people find themselves obsessed with the amount of people they are and aren’t friends. We equate our own worth with who we know and who knows us. We calculate our self-esteem based on the number of text messages we’re receiving or the plans we’re making.
We’ve created this idea that you have to be someone’s something in order to be something to someone. And the more somethings you are to the someone’s that matter, the better chance you have at being happy or successful or well liked.
Don’t buy into this. Believe me when I say that it won’t matter how many people like you or know you or want to be your friend, if you are unhappy with the person they seek. Happiness and satisfaction start with you and you alone. The you that people see and the you that people don’t. This person will not always look at you the way you want, and you won’t always love it the way you should, but know that you must accept this person honestly before anything else will matter.
You don’t have to be someone’s something to be something to someone; you just have to be someone that means something to you.
And always know that you will forever be someone that means everything to me.
See you soon.